About 7-8 months ago, I left the other site I had blogged on for years. I have been back now and then to read some of my favourites, but haven't quite felt like making my account visible again, or even blogging much (I did post twice in November and then left again).
I decided to focus on the most important thing at hand right now: my wedding. So I joined this wedding website. They have a community with forums where brides can go and ask advice or rant about any aspect of their wedding planning. In a way, it's like blogging, but mostly about wedding related stuff, which is my favourite topic right now.
However, I've noticed that the childish behaviour I witnessed over on my other blogging site was not just centered there. It seems to be everywhere, including this wedding website. People blasting other members, writing long rants, posting private messages in the public forum. It's ridiculous.
What is it about the internet that makes people act out like this? Is it the air of anonymity? That they won't be physically hurt? Whatever the reason, I don't know.
I just shake my head when I read these drama posts. I don't post there enough to be considered a regular. I try to use that site as what it's marketed to be: a wedding planning aid. People need to realize that not everyone is going to like their ideas. In the same respect, others need to realize that there is no "one way" to throw a wedding. There are many different etiquette rules depending on the type of wedding it is. Each wedding is going to be unique in their own way.
Sigh. I'm getting deja vu all over again. But what can I do really, this is the internet after all.
Saturday, 16 March 2013
Monday, 11 February 2013
A dream
It started with the wedding. In this dream, J and I were getting married, but we weren't at the venue we had chosen, we were at my mother's place.
I guess it was a quick ceremony, that detail is fuzzy. All I know is one important thing that happened in this dream: while we were signing the marriage certificate, my grandmother was sitting at the kitchen table.
I remember her smiling and saying she was proud of me, and I did well. I remember hugging her close after we signed the certificate and me saying something like "I really wish you were here"
The latter is what stuck in my mind the most. My grandmother passed away almost two years ago. I feel like I have a bit of scar tissue forming from that death. It was a major loss to me and my family. So she's still on my mind. Even now. We're about 4 and a half months away from the actual wedding. I know I'm going to miss seeing her at this event. I guess in my dream, I wanted her to be at my wedding so much, that she appeared. But even in the dream I knew it wasn't real. Because she won't be there.
My grandmother and I had a special bond. I feel like she looked out for my best interests. And up until now, she was always there for major moments in my life: being born, my christening, my first communion, my high school graduation, my graduation from Acadia (even if she couldn't attend in person, she was still there). So her not being at my wedding, is kind of upsetting.
Somehow having that dream gave me peace. In a way, it let me know she was still looking out for my best interests, and she approved of me marrying J. They only met once, but I really think they'd get along if she were alive still.
So while this dream did make me get emotional, I can go on with my planning for the big day, and realize that I have her approval.
I guess it was a quick ceremony, that detail is fuzzy. All I know is one important thing that happened in this dream: while we were signing the marriage certificate, my grandmother was sitting at the kitchen table.
I remember her smiling and saying she was proud of me, and I did well. I remember hugging her close after we signed the certificate and me saying something like "I really wish you were here"
The latter is what stuck in my mind the most. My grandmother passed away almost two years ago. I feel like I have a bit of scar tissue forming from that death. It was a major loss to me and my family. So she's still on my mind. Even now. We're about 4 and a half months away from the actual wedding. I know I'm going to miss seeing her at this event. I guess in my dream, I wanted her to be at my wedding so much, that she appeared. But even in the dream I knew it wasn't real. Because she won't be there.
My grandmother and I had a special bond. I feel like she looked out for my best interests. And up until now, she was always there for major moments in my life: being born, my christening, my first communion, my high school graduation, my graduation from Acadia (even if she couldn't attend in person, she was still there). So her not being at my wedding, is kind of upsetting.
Somehow having that dream gave me peace. In a way, it let me know she was still looking out for my best interests, and she approved of me marrying J. They only met once, but I really think they'd get along if she were alive still.
So while this dream did make me get emotional, I can go on with my planning for the big day, and realize that I have her approval.
Saturday, 29 December 2012
Moving Forward
I haven't posted in a while. But to me, that's okay.
I knew that when I gave up posting at the other place that it would be a challenge to keep up my posts here, not as much readership. But again that's okay. It seems my readers here will eventually read what I write, even if its sporadic. :)
I've been busy in the past month. I finally finished my Masters! And I did extremely well in that. 9 out of my 10 final grades from the entire program were in the A range (A- to A+), with the last grade being a B+. That's the best I've ever done, and I feel I can pat myself on the back proudly for this achievement.
Now hopefully I will be able to find work in this field. I've applied to a couple jobs here and there, but so far no biters. I will keep looking though!
I also decided to move in the last month. Since I finished school, I thought there was no point in me staying around Halifax. I was extremely lonely. So I moved back with J, and I'm glad I did. I'm just happier here in Moncton. I was not happy in Halifax at all. I was alone, and I felt lonely. Even though I had J's support with me while I was there, it wasn't the same as us being together in person. Now we'll never have to say goodbye to each other again, at least for the time being.
I guess with the new year rolling around, I'll be doing more planning for the wedding. It's hard to believe that the last 9 months have flown by so quickly. There's now only about 6 months left before the wedding (well, 5 months and 3 weeks now!). I'm sure it'll come in no time. But now I'm starting to feel the pressure of the tight timeline. I still have bridesmaids dresses to order, and a florist to book. J still has to get his tux for himself and his groom's posse. It'll all come together I'm sure. I'm trying not to stress out too much. I want to enjoy this whole wedding planning process, and prepare for my marriage.
Anyway, I best be off for now, have packing to do for my little trip to my hometown tomorrow (if the weather holds out that is!).
Until next time,
xoxo
Swimmy.
I knew that when I gave up posting at the other place that it would be a challenge to keep up my posts here, not as much readership. But again that's okay. It seems my readers here will eventually read what I write, even if its sporadic. :)
I've been busy in the past month. I finally finished my Masters! And I did extremely well in that. 9 out of my 10 final grades from the entire program were in the A range (A- to A+), with the last grade being a B+. That's the best I've ever done, and I feel I can pat myself on the back proudly for this achievement.
Now hopefully I will be able to find work in this field. I've applied to a couple jobs here and there, but so far no biters. I will keep looking though!
I also decided to move in the last month. Since I finished school, I thought there was no point in me staying around Halifax. I was extremely lonely. So I moved back with J, and I'm glad I did. I'm just happier here in Moncton. I was not happy in Halifax at all. I was alone, and I felt lonely. Even though I had J's support with me while I was there, it wasn't the same as us being together in person. Now we'll never have to say goodbye to each other again, at least for the time being.
I guess with the new year rolling around, I'll be doing more planning for the wedding. It's hard to believe that the last 9 months have flown by so quickly. There's now only about 6 months left before the wedding (well, 5 months and 3 weeks now!). I'm sure it'll come in no time. But now I'm starting to feel the pressure of the tight timeline. I still have bridesmaids dresses to order, and a florist to book. J still has to get his tux for himself and his groom's posse. It'll all come together I'm sure. I'm trying not to stress out too much. I want to enjoy this whole wedding planning process, and prepare for my marriage.
Anyway, I best be off for now, have packing to do for my little trip to my hometown tomorrow (if the weather holds out that is!).
Until next time,
xoxo
Swimmy.
Saturday, 24 November 2012
Tension
For the last couple of months since school started up again, I noticed I was having a lot of tension in my back.
I would wake up for the day and my hips and joints would be completely stiff, and would go on like that for almost the entire day.
I did go get massages at the student clinic a couple times, and that helped a bit for a few days. But that tension would eventually return, sometimes with a vengeance. And sometimes leading me to tears. Now if anyone knows me, I rarely cry over physical pain, because physical pain seems to be fixed easier in my opinion.
I thought part of the stiffness in my back was due to my crazy schedule. Wake up at 5:30am, go to work until 2 or 3, rush home to get changed, then rush off to class where I would sit in an uncomfortable chair for almost 3 hours. And it probably was.
But since last Friday, I've realized that I've been waking up without pain or stiffness. Last Friday was the 2 week countdown mark to my big move. Perhaps the end of my current job was in sight. The end of my time away from J was in sight. And maybe, just maybe I finally started to relax again.
I would wake up for the day and my hips and joints would be completely stiff, and would go on like that for almost the entire day.
I did go get massages at the student clinic a couple times, and that helped a bit for a few days. But that tension would eventually return, sometimes with a vengeance. And sometimes leading me to tears. Now if anyone knows me, I rarely cry over physical pain, because physical pain seems to be fixed easier in my opinion.
I thought part of the stiffness in my back was due to my crazy schedule. Wake up at 5:30am, go to work until 2 or 3, rush home to get changed, then rush off to class where I would sit in an uncomfortable chair for almost 3 hours. And it probably was.
But since last Friday, I've realized that I've been waking up without pain or stiffness. Last Friday was the 2 week countdown mark to my big move. Perhaps the end of my current job was in sight. The end of my time away from J was in sight. And maybe, just maybe I finally started to relax again.
Friday, 9 November 2012
Moving on
Well folks. I am proud to announce that I'm finally in the home stretch of my Master's program!
I only have three weeks left and then I'm done! Of course I don't really graduate until May of 2013, but the classes, assignments, and stress will be finished. Caput. Fini. Donezo!
When I moved here, I seriously thought that it would take forever to be finished. I missed J quite a bit and counted down the days/weeks until I would see him again. Now there is light at the end of the tunnel.
I made the decision a couple weeks ago that when I finish my classes, I would be moving back to Moncton.
Which means I'll finally get to be with J again! No more long distance! No more dropped phone calls because of terrible service in my apartment. No more missing him.
I still have a bit of journey ahead as I will be looking all over Canada for a job/career that I can put my education towards, but in the meantime, I will be in Moncton!
Just wanted to check in and let you all know!
Hope things are well!
I only have three weeks left and then I'm done! Of course I don't really graduate until May of 2013, but the classes, assignments, and stress will be finished. Caput. Fini. Donezo!
When I moved here, I seriously thought that it would take forever to be finished. I missed J quite a bit and counted down the days/weeks until I would see him again. Now there is light at the end of the tunnel.
I made the decision a couple weeks ago that when I finish my classes, I would be moving back to Moncton.
Which means I'll finally get to be with J again! No more long distance! No more dropped phone calls because of terrible service in my apartment. No more missing him.
I still have a bit of journey ahead as I will be looking all over Canada for a job/career that I can put my education towards, but in the meantime, I will be in Moncton!
Just wanted to check in and let you all know!
Hope things are well!
Saturday, 29 September 2012
The Bridal Show
Last week J and I reached the 9 month mark in our countdown towards the wedding! It's absolutely crazy how fast time has flown since we got engaged. It's already been close to 6 months already.
I'm beginning to get a clearer vision of the day in my head. I've actually accomplished a lot in my planning of our big day, such as getting my dress, booking our venue, sending out save the dates, and booking our photographer.
There's still a lot to get done, such as booking a DJ or hiring a florist. But that will come soon enough.
Last weekend I ventured into the Bridal Showcase put on by Atlantic Wedding Showcases. I had to go alone since my mother was booked in for a previous engagement by the time I found about about this thing, and my bridesmaids were also busy. But that's alright, I found it to be a wonderful experience. There were over 100 vendors at this showcase, so I tried to stop by most of them.
I created my registries with some vendors. Sought out coupons to get J's tux at other vendors. Filled out ballots for other vendors so I could enter draws with them. Received a complimentary massage at other vendor's booth. And possibly found a florist and DJ for my wedding.
In the last week since that showcase, I became very popular. All the vendors I had left my name, number and email with had contacted me at different points throughout the week. Some I had forgotten I had left my information with, but it was nice to hear back from them. They seemed really enthusiastic about being in the bridal show, and I enjoyed that they followed through with creating new contacts.
I have a meeting next week with one vendor to throw a "PartyLite" party with some of the girls. Also have another meeting with the Investors group to go over financial planning.
All in all the bridal showcase was a success. It made me very excited about my upcoming wedding. In January there will be another one, so hopefully I can go to that one as well. I may be dragging J this time though.
I'm beginning to get a clearer vision of the day in my head. I've actually accomplished a lot in my planning of our big day, such as getting my dress, booking our venue, sending out save the dates, and booking our photographer.
There's still a lot to get done, such as booking a DJ or hiring a florist. But that will come soon enough.
Last weekend I ventured into the Bridal Showcase put on by Atlantic Wedding Showcases. I had to go alone since my mother was booked in for a previous engagement by the time I found about about this thing, and my bridesmaids were also busy. But that's alright, I found it to be a wonderful experience. There were over 100 vendors at this showcase, so I tried to stop by most of them.
I created my registries with some vendors. Sought out coupons to get J's tux at other vendors. Filled out ballots for other vendors so I could enter draws with them. Received a complimentary massage at other vendor's booth. And possibly found a florist and DJ for my wedding.
In the last week since that showcase, I became very popular. All the vendors I had left my name, number and email with had contacted me at different points throughout the week. Some I had forgotten I had left my information with, but it was nice to hear back from them. They seemed really enthusiastic about being in the bridal show, and I enjoyed that they followed through with creating new contacts.
I have a meeting next week with one vendor to throw a "PartyLite" party with some of the girls. Also have another meeting with the Investors group to go over financial planning.
All in all the bridal showcase was a success. It made me very excited about my upcoming wedding. In January there will be another one, so hopefully I can go to that one as well. I may be dragging J this time though.
Sunday, 5 August 2012
Working my butt off
Literally.
About two weeks, a representative from the gym around the corner came into my workplace. This is an all women's gym, so she asked if any of us would like to get a coupon for a free trial at the gym.
I had been wanting to start working out. Hula hooping, was toning my core, but I felt it wasn't doing enough. And that feeling was verified by my mother's voice. I was discouraged and lacking a little motivation. But then this representative came in, and gave me my "in".
I went into the gym the next day to get a brief tour and talk with the sales representative who gave me the coupon.
And then I officially joined.
The first day I was a little nervous. I haven't been to the gym to work out since I was in Grade 12, and at that time I was going with my best friend. It was more of a social thing for us, since right after we usually ended up at KFC getting free food since her mother was the manager.
Anyway, this time around I'm going solo. I have goals to work towards, and I really want to be at a certain weight by the time my wedding rolls around. My first goal is to get under 200 lbs by December 1st.
I'm proud of myself to say, but within the last month, I've lost 7 pounds! I actually weighed myself at the gym on my second day there, which is when I found out I had lost 5 pounds. But I'm guessing that most of that was lost prior to my joining the gym and keeping up with my daily hula hooping.
So I'm slowly yet surely working towards my goals!
I think I can give myself a pat on the back right?
About two weeks, a representative from the gym around the corner came into my workplace. This is an all women's gym, so she asked if any of us would like to get a coupon for a free trial at the gym.
I had been wanting to start working out. Hula hooping, was toning my core, but I felt it wasn't doing enough. And that feeling was verified by my mother's voice. I was discouraged and lacking a little motivation. But then this representative came in, and gave me my "in".
I went into the gym the next day to get a brief tour and talk with the sales representative who gave me the coupon.
And then I officially joined.
The first day I was a little nervous. I haven't been to the gym to work out since I was in Grade 12, and at that time I was going with my best friend. It was more of a social thing for us, since right after we usually ended up at KFC getting free food since her mother was the manager.
Anyway, this time around I'm going solo. I have goals to work towards, and I really want to be at a certain weight by the time my wedding rolls around. My first goal is to get under 200 lbs by December 1st.
I'm proud of myself to say, but within the last month, I've lost 7 pounds! I actually weighed myself at the gym on my second day there, which is when I found out I had lost 5 pounds. But I'm guessing that most of that was lost prior to my joining the gym and keeping up with my daily hula hooping.
So I'm slowly yet surely working towards my goals!
I think I can give myself a pat on the back right?
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