...Talk about weddings so much?
I've been reading a lot of the message boards on the wedding site I recently joined. It's supposed to be a website for wedding related questions to be answered and discussed. But in the last couple of days, it seems like the responders to the questions think that a bride shouldn't be excited for her wedding. Or want things a certain way. Or "shame on you for even asking that".
I don't quite know how to explain it, but that's the feeling I'm getting.
Do you know how hard it is for a newly engaged girl to not bring up weddings? It's a big part of one's life.
But I realize I should tone it down. Might be depressing people around me for discussing it all the time. lol (that's the idea I'm getting from reading these message boards). I actually wanted to write a blog there, but it denied me access. So sorry for dumping this rant on here. lol.
Some of these women have also said (repetitively I might add) that the only thing a Bridesmaid has to do is buy the dress and show up at the wedding, and that they owe nothing to the bride. Somehow I think this view is a bit.. distorted. Maybe I'm biased for being a bride. But I was also a bridesmaid twice. When the bride asks the bridesmaid to be in the wedding, they are hoping to have a support system that will help them get to the altar.
But they should also know the plans as well. Of course that doesn't mean I have to talk weddings all the time. I know that. But when I do, I want my girls to be there for me.
I'll admit, since I got engaged, the topic of weddings has taken over my mind. I'm excited. This is a big step in my life. And I want to get on the ball with planning. During the prime planning period (which is 6-8 months prior - when ordering of dresses should be done) I'll be in school, and busy with that. So I want to at least get an idea of what my bridesmaids are going to wear before school starts again in September.
Is that a crime?
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