| Today J and I were in the grocery store, when a guy with two girls walked by us. We overheard the guy say to one of the girls something about whining. I don't remember exactly. But then as we turned the corner, I said to J "I think it's funny when guys complain about a woman whining when he started it". He ended up giving me a "Are you on crack?" look. Well no. I do think it's funny. In fact, earlier today, when we were walking towards the mall, he randomly made a comment that actually hurt my feelings. He mentioned something about me being messy. So I jumped to the defensive side to stand up for myself. See, I do know I can be messy at times. I do get lazy and at the end of the day my clothes end up on our bedroom floor. But so do J's. Actually more of J's clothes end up on the floor, but that's a minor detail. My family has actually picked fun at me for this before, and it's a sensitive topic. But a couple days later I'll sweep the entire room and throw whatever's on the floor into the hamper and then do laundry. Mine and J's. I'll even be trying to sweep the floor around him while he's on his computer playing games. So yes, I am messy, but I do clean up after myself. Maybe not to his best friend's standards, but I do, and frequently. So I was acting a little bitchy after his comment. My feelings were hurt. And then he complains I'm being defensive and giving attitude! Well yeah, how else am I supposed to react? Am I just going to smile and take the insult and not do anything? I think not! Unbelievable how men can be sometimes. So yes, he started it, and I whined about it. So it was funny when we overheard that guy at the grocery store. Is it really that surprising when a woman decides to defend herself and get defensive? | |
Sunday, 17 July 2011
Defensive
Note: I've reposted this from my other blog because I got tired of waiting for it to show up there lol
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I'm a total neat-freak, so my issue is the opposite: I have a low-tolerance for 'mess', but I've learned that my version of mess is not always everyone else's, lol.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, I think women get the bad reputation for being 'too' defensive, when in fact it's actually a very human trait. You want to be seen as 'good' or 'right', you know? So it may come across as defensive. What you're really saying is: Hey! I work hard, do all the things I am supposed to do so WTF if my panties missed the hamper. I'm going to wash all the crap soon!
But it's hard to just say that without sounding mean. I totally get it! The good thing is that this is all usually very quickly over with, or hopefully it is.
Home upkeep is a lot of work. I know! And my cat, Britney, refuses to help. :) (Bubbles)
Bubbles:
ReplyDeleteYeah I get streaks of neat freakness sometimes too. So was totally taken back with J's comment. So I basically told him how it was, like I explained here, and that he hurt my feelings by saying that. He apologized so it's all goood.