"You catch more flies with honey than vinegar"
I find this statement to be very true.
Especially when it comes to one of my roommates. She tends to have the reputation for being a bitch. And she is... then wonders why she's still single.
She's J's best friend though so I try to be polite. Just because any conflicts between us would leave him torn.
But I'm finding out that I'm not really a fan of hers.
And it feels like the feeling is mutual.
There was one instance where my mother was coming to visit for the weekend. It was Easter weekend and Mom wanted to bring a turkey to cook for an Easter dinner. But this roommate put up a fight with J that it's her kitchen and all this other bullshit. I wasn't impressed, but she got her way. And I think part of the reason we got a hotel room that night was because of this roommate.
She doesn't treat everyone like that though. Our other roommate is a male that she likes. About a week or so after my mother's visit, he wanted to make a turkey dinner. No arguments from anyone.
Now his parents are in town, and they're staying with us! In our little apartment that apparently didn't have room for just my mom.
It drives me nuts when people are two faced like that. Treat some people one way, and then others a different way.
But are there ways to bring this up without rocking the boat too much?
I'm torn because I want to finally crack and give this person a piece of my mind. I've been patient long enough but it's really starting to eat me up from the inside. I just don't want J to be caught in the crossfire. He's known this person for almost 15 years. And then there's me who he's in love with.
Ahh such a dilemma...
You have J on your side so this should be as simple as a "Honey, this bothers me..." kind of conversation. Better to say it, then let it fester and become a huge issue later on.
ReplyDeleteAs long as you have your partner's support, I'll say go ahead and give this person a piece of your mind. When it comes to roomates, not easy to find a good match.
ReplyDeleteKofla @ God of War Diaries
@ Smarty: J does know how I feel about this situation. We've discussed it before that she can be irrational at times. But the problem is I can't keep using J as my messenger to let her know when I'm less than happy with her actions.
ReplyDelete@ Kofla: I've discovered I very much prefer to live alone. Because between my very first apartment I had - I had disastrous roommates - and this apartment now, I lived in my own place for about a year. Best year of my life. So unless I'm living with just J from now on, I'll opt to live by myself. Done with roommates.