I realized something as I left my class I had this evening for the night: I tend to connect more with those that are older than me. With the exceptions of my two closest friends who are only a few months younger than I am.
But I was thinking about last semester when I had to work with two different groups for the same class. Different projects. But one group had individuals who were slightly older than me by a few months or years, and one group consisted of individuals who were about my age or younger. I found that I got along better with the two in the former group as opposed to the latter.
When we would meet to do the work required for the class, we always met well in advance to prepare for what needed to be done. The other group would meet the day before the assignment was due. Plus the conversations differed in both groups but I felt more involved in the conversation with those who were older, than the other group in which I felt more like I was the third wheel and intruding on their meeting.
Tonight for a new class, there was an assignment presented to us that will be worth 30% of our marks. We have to put on a 50 minute seminar for the class on an issue in food security. Right away the group I had worked with last semester who were about my age and younger teamed up with those closer in age to themselves. They didn't even ask me to join. But I was okay with that. I instead asked the other group of individuals who were older than me if they wanted to be a group with me. And they graciously accepted and actually seemed excited about it.
I think I act older than most my age. Whether I intend to or not, but I have most definitely noticed that I get along better with those that are older than me. Maybe it's partly the way I was brought up, and partly from being on that other site. Most of the people there were older than me. Even J is 8 years older than I am, and we have one of the strongest and relationships ever.
I was never one to go out and party every weekend throughout highschool or even my undergrad. Sure there were times I would go out, but that was usually once every few weeks or even months. Alcohol was never a requirement for me to have fun, as it seems to be now for individuals between the age of 16 and 25. I found other stuff to have fun with. I'd much rather a semi quiet evening at home watching a newly released DVD with some friends. Or playing rockband with friends. Maybe a few drinks would be involved but like I said, it's most definitely not required. So maybe in a way I would seek those that have grown out of the partying every weekend ordeal. And yes, most of them happen to be older than me. Except for one of my closest friends, she and I differ in age by a few months, but we are most definitely on the same wavelength when it comes to having fun without alcohol involved. I should clarify that this is a general observation, and doesn't exactly mean that all that are older have grown out of that phase, or that all that are younger are still in the partying phase, because I know of people who are older who still like to party on a weekly basis and those that are younger that prefer to save their money.
I have also noticed that I don't really seek those that are older, it just tends to happen that way
If you met me on the street, would you guess that I'm 23 which is my age? I'm just curious. Because I feel like I act like I'm 25 or older.
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